This is NOT an anti-men book. I want to be very clear about that. When I shared this book on Instagram as I read, I got so many messages calling it a feminist agenda. It’s not. The book talks about and investigates unconscious bias. It’s not about men deliberately excluding women, it’s not about how awful men are, it’s a look at how over time culture has produced a “one-size-fits-men” approach.
The statistics and studies throughout this book had my blood pressure through the roof, I was both inspired and depressed at the same time. It’s incredibly eye-opening at how women and data relating to women are just left out in decision making positions and as such the system we live in doesn’t account for women habits and needs.
I don’t want to give away any of the “big shocks” because I truly do want you to read it for yourself. Any summary I could give would not do it justice. But I will share this gem from Chapter 3 talking about the unpaid-work imbalance between men and women, because I already sent it to every person in my contacts so might as well share again:
“At an individual level, sure, there are men who are doing more. But at a population level? Well, no, not really, because it turnout that the proportion of unpaid work men do is remarkably sticky.
An Australian study found that even in wealthier couples who pay for domestic help, the remaining unpaid work attacks than married women — particularly when put alongside a University of Michigan study which found that husbands create an extra seven hours of housework a week for women.
An Australian study similarly found that housework time is most equal by gender for single men and women; when women start to cohabit, ‘their housework time goes up while men’s goes down, regardless of their employment status’. “
THIS. I know Rich will read this and huff but it’s true. My laundry has doubled. The dishes doubled. And the household cleaning like vacuuming, that too has doubled because when I had a female roommate we alternated chores like vacuuming and dusting. With a husband? Not so much. I love Rich and I love being his wife but come on – SEVEN HOURS A WEEK – this is insane to me and it’s one the tip of the iceberg for all the incredible things you’ll discover and learn.
Of all the books I read in high school and University growing up, this book should have been number one on those lists. This is a must read for everyone, not only does it look at topics you’ve properly never considered, like snow-ploughing effecting hospital admittances, but it’s genuinely brilliant.
It’s brilliantly written, well researched and incredibly interesting throughout. And if by chance you are in a position to add this book to a high school reading list, I urge you to consider it. Not only does it offer valuable insights, it’s a great example of a “research” paper. It has endless opportunities for cross-over into other areas of study. Have a student who favours law, women’s rights, biology, there’s a chapter or two on each of these for them to explore and do their own research. I would go so far to say I’d be a high school English teacher just to teach this book every year. Because it’s that good!
It’s not just highly recommended, it’s mandatory.